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3 Steps to Talking with Your Student About Difficult Circumstances

As a parent, going through a difficult situation is hard enough - but knowing how to navigate and talk through that situation with your student can be even harder (and even more complicated). We all want to do our best to go through tough times with grace and honor God in the process while leading our children well, but in the middle of the mess it can feel like a struggle just to stay afloat, much less to say the right thing.

But there’s good news: God is the perfect guide for us, even when we’re facing something tough. When it comes to talking to your student about a difficult circumstance you’re both facing, here are 3 guidelines you can put into practice both today and in the future.

  1. First, Ask God to Guide You

    Especially when it comes to talking about something sensitive or scary, go to God with it first before you begin a conversation with your student. Ask him for wisdom on how to approach the topic, how much you should share from your own perspective, and to give you the right words to say. And don’t be afraid to double down - when you’re IN the conversation, keep asking God for all of those things, too!

  2. Second, Check Your Motives

    When you’re in the middle of a hard situation or season, odds are you’re probably dealing with your own stress, fear, or even anger. It’s not bad to have those emotions, but be sure you have them in check before entering a conversation with your student. It can be easy to let an emotion-infused anecdote or concern slip that may leave your child feeling confused or anxious leaving the conversation rather than safe and comforted. Consider evaluating what you’ll share before you share it - and make sure the point of sharing is to build someone up, build trust in your relationship, or build their relationship with God - not to validate your own emotions or your own point.

  3. Third, Be Authentic

    As a parent, you know the pressure (and sometimes the perk!) of “having all the answers.” But you also know there’s no such thing - especially when it comes to facing difficult circumstances. Don’t be afraid to be real with your student - if you don’t know the answer, it’s okay to say so. Your honesty is more important to them than having everything figured out, and it will give them the permission in the future to tell you that they might not know everything, too (fingers crossed!). Use a situation where you don’t know the answer to commit to finding solutions, wisdom, and answers together.

Whatever situation you and your family are facing, remember that God is in control. If you’d like to talk to someone about your circumstances or experiences, or you’d just like prayer, we’d love to start a conversation with you.

To learn more about LCBC’s Student Ministry and how your student in Grades 5-12 can get involved, visit LCBCchurch.com/Students.

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