Marlane felt weighed down most of her life by a lack of boundaries. Her inability to say no kept her from experiencing the life she was meant to live and following the path she was created to walk. "I felt like I was buried under a pile of rocks," she recalls.
A fear of not being loved kept Marlane in a cycle of co-dependency. A desire to always know what others' needed and to keep them happy left her spinning her wheels. She was always busy, but never productive. Her need to always say yes kept her in one spot—worrying about everyone else and never herself.
"You have to have a sense of who you are, who you want to be, to be able to protect your space and boundaries."
When Marlane started attending Celebrate Recovery at LCBC, her outlook began to change. God revealed her purpose and calling, and she began to experience the joy and freedom that came with knowing who she was in Christ instead of in other people.
Over time, Marlane was able to say "no" more, freeing herself from the restraints of others and learning to find her voice and set her boundaries. She realized the relief that came in being there for others without feeling responsible for fixing them.
Today, living a life in recovery of co-dependency, Marlane knows her worth is in Jesus, and she feels the difference. "You have to have a sense of who you are, who you want to be, to be able to protect your space and boundaries." And she knows that loving someone means caring about them enough to let them walk their own path.