Parenting is one of the most rewarding jobs in the world. But let’s be honest – it’s also exhausting. In fact, research shows that 40% of parents say that parenting is exhausting, and almost 25% say it’s the most stressful job they’ve ever had. Sleepless nights, managing big feelings, making meals, picking up toys, driving to and from practice…the list goes on.
It’s normal to feel exhausted from time to time as a parent. But when that exhaustion goes unchecked, you can easily find yourself on a slippery slope to burnout.
What is burnout, and why are parents vulnerable?
Burnout isn’t just feeling tired. It’s an extreme state of exhaustion – mental, physical, and emotional – that comes from chronic stress. Lots of situations can cause burnout, like an unmanageable workload or an unhealthy relationship. But parenting, being such a high-demand, round-the-clock responsibility, can also be a pathway to burnout.
Here are some signs you may be struggling with burnout:
- You feel overwhelmed, drained, and hopeless.
- You’re extremely tired, weak, or unable to move.
- You've started isolating yourself, feeling detached from or even impatient with others.
- You find yourself having more angry or emotional outbursts.
- You have trouble focusing or performing your responsibilities.
- You’re having trouble sleeping, or noticed your sleeping patterns have changed.
- You’ve started using food, drugs, or alcohol to feel better.
If any of these sound like you lately, you may be dealing with burnout. But don’t worry – it's possible to move forward and heal from burnout. Here are five truths to hold onto:
1. You’re not alone
Parenting can feel isolating, but you don’t have to carry this weight by yourself. There are other parents walking through the trenches with you. More importantly, God is there to sustain you.
Jesus says, “Come to me, all you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28). Lean on him for strength and trust that he’s with you every step of the way.
2. Don’t skip out on rest
Time to yourself is rare as a parent. When you find yourself with that ever-elusive free time, it can be tempting to try to do something “productive” with it. After all, you don’t want to seem lazy!
But prioritizing rest isn’t laziness. In fact, rest is honoring God’s design for you. The Bible reminds us that rest is a command, not a suggestion: “Remember to observe the Sabbath day by keeping it holy” (Exodus 20:8).
That's why it’s important to make space for self-care. Take a walk while listening to worship music, take a nap, or enjoy a snack while watching your favorite show. Remember that recharging isn’t just good for you – it helps you be the best version of yourself for your family.
3. You need community
Burnout often happens after we've tried too long to carry our load alone. Even Jesus surrounded himself with others for support. Find a community that can walk alongside you. Joining a Group, connecting with family, or calling a friend are all great ways to keep people close.
Community doesn’t have to look like a perfectly planned playdate or a fancy dinner out. It can be as simple as creating a text thread with other parents, finding someone to call when your toddler just won’t sleep, or joining a Bible study for encouragement. You could even connect with a counselor to share what you’re walking through. (If you need help finding one near you, let us know!)
4. Seasons are temporary
The diapers, runny noses, piling laundry, and preteen attitudes are all just a season. And like all seasons, they will pass. When it feels like the stressful stage you’re in will never end, remember that God can and will give you exactly what you need to get through it.
Isaiah 40:31 reminds us, “But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings like eagles. They will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.” Lean into God and rely on him to renew your strength.
5. You were made for this
God chose you specifically to be the parent of your children. He entrusted their care to you. While parenting comes with immense responsibility, remember that God is always in control. Let go of the pressure to control every outcome and trust that God has designed you to be exactly what your kids need!
You will heal from burnout
Parenting is challenging, but it’s also deeply meaningful. When you’re feeling burnt out, remind yourself of these truths. Lean into God’s strength and trust him to guide you through every step of the journey.
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